Narcissistic Employers Can Derail Your Career

People only bring up your past when they are threatened by your present. 

When I moved back to my hometown it was something I had wanted from the moment I moved away. I couldn't wait to move back and get a job teaching in my hometown. 

Prior to the interview I noticed that the human resources person was somebody that had worked in human resources at one of my first jobs in a processing plant. I thought it would be a good thing that she knew me from there, because I had proven myself to be a competent reliable worker. 

While I was employed there I worked my way up from being a general labourer to being a time keeper and first aid attendant. I wanted more for myself, so I went back to school.

While I was employed there I also became heavily involved in the union. She may have taken things personally. 

Take note that since I worked at that processing plant, I went back to school where: I upgraded, I got an associate degree, I got a bachelors degree, I got a teaching certificate, and I was just 2 courses shy of completing my masters degree. 

When this human resources person greeted me, she opened with the following.

Hello, you certainly have come a looooong way.

Her voice dripping with contempt.

Why did she feel the need to bring up my past in this way? 

When I quit working at that processing plant and went back to school, I was 27 years old. 

When I walked in for this job interview, I was 46 years old. 

Why would she go alllll the way back to my past when it was almost 20 years later?

She felt threatened. 

Period. 

What else could it be?

I got an email telling me that they would not be proceeding with my application. 

For reasons only this human resources person knows because she won't tell me, I have been stopped from proceeding in the career I have spent years working towards. 

I don't know what I can do about that. 

I really don't.

This is part of my pain. 

This has added to my trauma. 

Please let me know if you have had to deal with a narcissistic or sociopathic employer and what the outcome was. If you think there is something I can do about this, please let me know your ideas.

~ Poking Holes


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