Narcissistic Employers Can Derail Your Career
People only bring up your past when they are threatened by your present.
When I moved back to my hometown it was something I had wanted from the moment I moved away. I couldn't wait to move back and get a job teaching in my hometown.
Prior to the interview I noticed that the human resources person was somebody that had worked in human resources at one of my first jobs in a processing plant. I thought it would be a good thing that she knew me from there, because I had proven myself to be a competent reliable worker.
While I was employed there I worked my way up from being a general labourer to being a time keeper and first aid attendant. I wanted more for myself, so I went back to school.
While I was employed there I also became heavily involved in the union. She may have taken things personally.
Take note that since I worked at that processing plant, I went back to school where: I upgraded, I got an associate degree, I got a bachelors degree, I got a teaching certificate, and I was just 2 courses shy of completing my masters degree.
When this human resources person greeted me, she opened with the following.
Hello, you certainly have come a looooong way.
Her voice dripping with contempt.
Why did she feel the need to bring up my past in this way?
When I quit working at that processing plant and went back to school, I was 27 years old.
When I walked in for this job interview, I was 46 years old.
Why would she go alllll the way back to my past when it was almost 20 years later?
She felt threatened.
What else could it be?
I got an email telling me that they would not be proceeding with my application.
For reasons only this human resources person knows because she won't tell me, I have been stopped from proceeding in the career I have spent years working towards.
I don't know what I can do about that.
I really don't.
This is part of my pain.
This has added to my trauma.
Please let me know if you have had to deal with a narcissistic or sociopathic employer and what the outcome was. If you think there is something I can do about this, please let me know your ideas.
~ Poking Holes